Valentine’s Day isn’t always just about romance and relationships. It is about love. And oftentimes we overlook the one person that deserves the most love: yourself. What does loving yourself mean? On the tangible side, it means honoring your body and eating right, exercising, and avoiding anything that would be hurtful or unhealthy to your body. On a deeper level, it means looking within yourself and accepting what you find, all the good and bad. We tend to value our self worth at a superficial level through our possessions and status. What happens when you take the job title away, the fashionable outfits and shoes, the bank account balance, the haircut and makeup? What happens when you dig deeper? What do you see? Who do you see?
Look beyond all the distractions, and see who you are on the inside. Embrace and accept the imperfections and flaws. Celebrate your strengths and encourage areas where you are growing. True happiness can be achieved when you discover love for the real you. See if in the next few days or weeks, you can continue to embrace this relationship with the deeper you. Perhaps that might mean just eliminating one type of unhealthy food you normally eat. Perhaps that might mean resisting the urge to buy a new dress just because it would normally make you happy. Perhaps that might mean really wrestling with an area in your heart and learning to let go of something that has been hurting you.
This Valentine’s Day, make a change and love yourself first.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.”
“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
~ Carl Jung
“Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.”
~ Veronica A. Shoffstall
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted visions of people who embrace life.”
~ John Lennon
“I am strong; I am weak. I am flawed; I am broken. I am vulnerable. I am human. And despite these flaws, I give myself permission to love myself unconditionally. I am a growing, evolving being, who uses past mistakes as a fuel for my journey of growth. I accept myself as I am, and I set an intention to become the person I want to be.”
~ Melanie Greenberg